Is OCD Destroying Your Relationship?

The majority of people assume that OCD entails compulsive behaviors like hand washing and wood knocking. On the other hand, the majority of OCD sufferers are plagued by intrusive thoughts that simply keep coming to mind rather than compulsions.

The thoughts can occasionally be so constant that they are unable to concentrate on anything else. Otherwise, they can be crippled by irrational fears, such as fear of death, doing something bad, or contamination.

It can be difficult to know when to offer support and when to hold someone with OCD accountable for seeking treatment, which makes loving them difficult.

Whether you are a sufferer or a partner, the following scenarios may seem familiar:

Obsessions

OCD sufferers may develop an obsession with things that may seem insignificant to others, such as putting away toys, making the bed water on the bathroom floor, sealing milk cartons, and turning off lights. While this may seem like a cutesy eccentricity, the victim is wise enough to try to turn off the lights or mop the bathroom floor after their partner has used it.

However, in OCD with poor insight, the sufferer might nag, scold, or become angry with the partner for not seeming to notice the same things revolving around their obsessions. Because the partner believes that the OCD sufferer is destroying romance and making the most of the day by obsessing over things that they do not understand, this can cause arguments.

Many individuals with OCD experience euphoria and bursts of serotonin, dopamine, and oxytocin, resulting in temporary improvement in symptoms when they first meet a new partner. Otherwise, the OCD temporarily hooks on to anxieties revolving around the relationship, such as fear that the partner will leave them.

As the relationship develops, the OCD begins to latch onto an obsession with the partner's behavior. They may become very critical of their partner or start 'nitpicking'. The behavior is unconscious and does not mean a lack of love for the partner. 

However, obsessions and seemingly critical behavior can be devastating to relationships and can be a greater risk factor for breakups and divorce than compulsions or intrusive thoughts.

Irrational fears

  • Fear of a negative outcome: One sufferer refrained from cooking out of concern that she would burn the house down. She would keep checking the stove and did not want her husband to cook.

  • Contamination fear: Washing the utensils repeatedly out of concern that they, their spouse, and their kids might get contaminated.

  • Fear of losing their job: Recurrent intrusive thoughts about job loss could lead to starting early, working late, and fear of spending money even if there is no evidence that their employment is unstable.

  • Fear of death: A sufferer may have recurrent intrusive thoughts that he, she, or a loved one is going to die. One of our patients refused to board a plane out of concern that his wife would perish if he left the state.

The sufferer may constantly need validation and reassurance, which over time can become tiring and annoying to the partner. The need for reassurance can lead to a loss of attraction.

Compulsions

Compulsions, such as knocking wood and hand washing, may be relatively harmless. However, if occurring multiple times a day, compulsions can lead to chronic lateness, poor productivity, and job loss.

Intimacy can also be hampered by compulsions, which can lead to strained marriages and relationships over time.

Avoidance Behaviors

Avoidance of intimacy due to intrusive thoughts about bodily fluids and smells; avoidance of showering and baths because of contamination fears.

It is common for individuals with OCD to be focused on their obsessions but oblivious to how their poor personal hygiene is experienced by others. Intrusive violent and sexual thoughts may take precedence over avoidance behaviors. 

It is possible that the victim is embarrassed to tell their partner. The partner may become even more frustrated because they are unaware of what is happening. For example, one patient was unable to pick up her baby due to fear of violent intrusive thoughts and insisted on a full-time nanny. She was unable to tell her husband, who thought she did not care about the baby.

If OCD symptoms are interfering with your relationship, it is critical to get help because OCD is treatable.

Treatment of OCD includes:

⁃ Medication: Medication can cause rapid resolution in OCD symptoms

⁃ Individual therapy

⁃ Supplements

⁃ Alternative treatment: Yoga, Meditation, Acupuncture

⁃ Relationship therapy: Relationship therapy helps a partner understand a sufferer's OCD. It also helps a sufferer understand the effect their OCD symptoms are having on their partner.


To learn more about OCD treatment visit: https://gabapsychiatrist.com/ocd/

For psychiatric support, contact Gaba Telepsychiatry at +1833-312-4222

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